1. It is damned hard finding therapists who know anything helpful.
Consider the difficulty in finding a therapist who adequately understands trans issues (or gay issues or fat issues or POC issues) and then multiply that by about a thousand. It’s rare. Like unicorns and…
I am going to disagree with many points here. This is based on many, many years of psychiatric and psychological study done as a matter of survival, and neurological study performed because I’m fascinated with the brain’s complexity and ability to adapt. Just for the record, I am legally disabled due to a combination of psych and physical issues. I also have a very bad history with all aspects of psychiatry, and see a LCSW for therapy once a month or more. More than once, I’ve successfully advocated for others in psych and medical situations. My intention is to give information based on experience and study, not to antagonize.
Multiple personality disorder is one of the brain’s methods of defense. Yes, it is a psych disorder. No, it is not a moral judgement, nor can it be cured. In fact, the only curable psych disorders of which I’m aware are temporary anyway, though ECT is able to break some severe depressive phases.
The cases of true MPD I’ve studied seem to have mainly been triggered by some traumatic event. In a sense, it’s a form of PTSD. I’ve never seen a study comparing prevalence between the two, but I have to wonder if some structural difference in the brain decides how it will react.
(For the record, I think psychiatry should be integrated as a subset of neurology. Psych disorders take place within the physical brain, so why pretend the matter and the mind are separate entities? Talk therapy should be considered a separate but parallel field.)
What I’m saying here is that, yes, psychiatry and its related fields need to switch from a mindset of curing or controlling mental illness, to one of controlling distressing and disabling symptoms, helping patients learn to accept and love themselves as they are WHILE figuring out what best works for them to help them function, and decreasing stigma in the greater community.
I hope this makes sense, and good luck finding the right therapist for you. :)
Thank you for contributing to the conversation. I read everything you had to say. Here are a few counters to consider.
"This is based on many, many years of psychiatric and psychological study" A valid way to attain knowledge, but still not the same as dealing with a situation personally on a daily basis. You are not multiple; I am. (Correct me if that assumption is wrong.)
"The cases of true MPD I’ve studied seem to have mainly been triggered by some traumatic event." This is called biased sampling. The case studies that come up in literature deal solely with trauma-based systems who are having difficulty functioning. Systems without trauma-based origin or those who have no difficulty functioning rarely come to the attention of the mental health industry. One theory of multiplicity as PTSD is that different people in a multiple system work to protect each other in trauma situations, in the same way that singlets dissociate to protect themselves.
"good luck finding the right therapist for you. :)" Thank you! I am currently in therapy for unrelated conditions (although my therapist is aware that we are multiple) and generally speaking I am satisfied with her level of helpfulness.
when your obsessive special interest suddenly changes and your blog followers are like wtf this isn’t what i signed up for
#i truly feel like you all should just follow me from spiral to spiral
lol my poor followers right now came for The Hobbit or Pacific Rim and now they’re getting inundated in gifs of Juice
But, seriously, follow hobbitkaiju anyway, because I just tune out the fandoms I don’t care about and the rest is AWESOME! Like the best porn and goats and kittens and really important stuff and totally silly stuff and basically you will never be bored.
"Why bother transitioning if you are just going to act/dress like a boy/girl anyway?"
Yes. Why transition to the sex I actually am if I am only going to subvert gender roles and fuck with society’s expectations of what a boy or girl actually is.
Using Your Ladycock as a Fashion Accessory
Using Your Ladycock as a Fashion Accessory
by Haley Rose
So you wanna rock out with your cock out? Blatant bulges are barely worthy of mention when men are the bearers in question, but put that cock between the legs of a lady and suddenly the subject is inherently interesting. Some girls have it easy ‘cause they’re teeny and can hide in a bikini but for those of us with some clunk to our junk, this prospect becomes less probable.
…So, why bother?
It’s an unavoidable fact that mainstream society is way out of fashion and simply can’t keep up with the avant-garde, but those of us in the know have found that ladycocks can be the hottest accessory in our ensemble. As an alluring accent or conversation starting statement piece, ladycocks are versatile, functional, and fashionable.
Work It, Don’t Jerk It!
While most men carry their packages as a buck does its horns, we women are frequently pressured to be lady-like and non-threatening in our posture. When not tucking, make sure to let your cock simply be present, accenting your outfit like a purse or a scarf. Using your ladycock as an accessory means allowing it to accentuate your wardrobe without drawing all the attention.
-Pencil skirts should be tight enough to accentuate the outline of the shaft without defining every vein and contour (use leggings and dark colors to help your cock blend in).
-When wearing skinny jeans, let your ladycock simply rest in the pants, like a sly smile just below your belt.
-Trying to conceal your ladycock by holding your purse, coat, etc in front of her will only draw more attention. Wear your ladycock with confidence, as if it’s simply a fact. It’s like forgetting to shave your legs and not giving a fuck about it.
-If you’re particularly gifted and can’t seem to conceal your cock, try buying some lacy ribbon and tying a bow around her; it will add a cuteness factor while making it less threatening to cis people (let’s be real, it’s all about them).
-Be sure to avoid public arousal or you’ll lose a pair of panties and your accessory will become a statement piece… Unless that’s what you’re going for, in which case…
Swing Like a Meat Hook, Baby!
For those of us with a more daring sense of fashion (see: houndstooth on houndstooth), ladycocks can be the statement piece that ties a whole outfit together. Letting your freak flag fly may come naturally or be a bit of a challenge; either way, you better be ready to rock that cock like a prostitute rocks six inch heels; flawlessly.
-Show no weakness, don’t lose confidence, and don’t break concentration. Be matter-of-fact about your package, even in-your-face (though don’t actually put it in someone’s face unless you’ve had a talk regarding consent first).
-Like fucking with gender norms when it comes to fashion? Ladycock can be the perfect way to go the extra eight or so inches when butching it up. Try wearing your ladycock with a pair of skinny jeans, Chuck Taylors, a simple v-neck, and a nice coat with shoulder pads.
-Treat your ladycock like you treat your tits!
Think about how much money and effort some girls put into making their breasts look awesome and then direct that energy downwards. No, I’m not suggesting using bronzer to make your balls look bigger (assuming you still have them) but if you’re gonna stuff your tits into a push-up bra why not pick out a pair of jeans that really makes your cock look great? It’s way better than having tacky crap on your butt pockets.
Stop keeping your cock in the back of your closet; practice making her a part of your regular wardrobe. Looking for styling tips and ways to make your cock fit your particular fashion sense? Try looking to magazines, TV, movies, and advertisements for positive, trans, fashion role models.
Oh… right. Well, there’s always tumblr…
Why does the world I find myself in, populated by so many loving people, have so little kindness?
We have turned competition from a showcase of human skill, a motivation of human endeavours, into a viciously destructive art form.
Capitalism has us playing a game of false rewards, brainwashing us to the point that we deny the game even exists because how could we live if it really did? How could we go to work in the morning, knowing that our parents should have loved us and they didn’t? How can we pay our bills, knowing that our friends should have stuck up for us and they didn’t? How can we cook dinner knowing, that our partners should have praised us and didn’t?
The oppertunites we have missed, the people who should have been there and weren’t, the beauty, love, joy, or approval that other people have withheld from us, these things are real.
You owe it to the beautiful person you are or the beautiful person you could be, to stop the competition. Every day that you have lived, you have breathed air and your heart has beat inside your chest and tiny burst of electricity have fired in your brain. That is not insignificant. That is miraculous.
Count the beats of your heart. You are not a machine with switches and buttons to serve other people’s whims. You are alive. You are here. This planet is your home. You belong—whether you are useful, productive, worthy, deserving, beautiful, intelligent, virtuous… or not. Your existence does not need to be justified by your value to anyone.
Jury nullification. Pass it on.
Jury nullification is so fucking important.
This is something that more people should be aware of, if only because (in many states, at least) defense attorneys are actually prohibited from mentioning it to jurors. The law allows a jury to return a “not guilty” verdict contrary to the facts of the case, but not for the defense to inform them of that power or to argue for its application in the current trial.
Necessary to reblog this, always. So, so fucking important.
I won’t stop while I’m ahead.
I’ll dream until my mind can’t hold my dreams anymore and they spill out into the world. Until I make my thoughts happen by the sheer power of my will as it mingles with the colors of the minds
I touch in a rainbow
that is more than the sum
of any of us.
I won’t stop when I’m behind.
I’ll soldier on, if my legs collapse, if my fingers bleed, if my heart can’t beat and my lungs can’t fill. When the fight is hopeless, I will hope. When I am hated, I will love.
I won’t stop at all, not once, not ever.
When I risk gaining everything and chance losing all, I will risk it all. I will tear myself to shreds and build myself anew. I am indomitable, indestructible, a force of nature.
I am you.
Loki Week Day 6 (Loki’s Villainous Moments & Deaths)
Suffered Enough, Burn it All For those days when you don’t even want to get out of bed. For the times when you’ve gotten to the very end of your rope and someone you love gives you just another gentle kick. When you are so alone and confused that you would cling to the people who hurt you… or stab the ones who love you. In short, for the moments when you feel like Loki.
Passenger - Things That Stop You Dreaming | Heather Dale - Mordred’s Lullaby | Assemblage 23 - Angels & Demons | Wizard - Loki’s Punishment | Leonard Cohen - Avalanche | Voltaire - Lovesong | Three Days Grace - Pain | Assemblage 23 - The Noise Inside My Head | Placebo - Song to Say Goodbye | Godsmack - I Stand Alone | Celldweller - So Long Sentiment (Melancholic Movie ReMix by TweakerRay) | Manowar - Loki God of Fire | Enya - The River Sings | Sieben - Loki Rides Again
for Lent, I’m giving up
This shit is fucking ridiculous I’m just going to stop believing in oranges all together.
If we disbelieve hard enough, maybe they’ll just.. Go away?
Loki Week Day 2 (Character Traits) - Rage and Laughter and Lust and Tears
Sometimes when I think about Loki, I just want to scream. His entire life is nothing more than a series of unfortunate events. Which is frustrating and rage inducing and also sometimes just hilarious. Fortunately, Loki has a good sense of humor. Like slow, gruesome murder. What’s not funny about that?
Voltaire - When You’re Evil | The White Stripes - Seven Nation Army | Shinterymi - Not one of us | Faun - Andro | Rammstein - Pussy | Tom Lehrer - The Masochism Tango | Inxs - Devil inside | Nick Cave & The Bad Seeds - Up Jumped The Devil | Adam Lambert - For Your Entertainment | The Truants - The Haunting | Nick Cave & The Bad Seeds - Mercy | Voltaire - Almost Human | The National - Wasp Nest | Shiny Toy Guns - Stripped | Hurts - Mercy | Muse - Feeling Good
(Cover is copyright to me under CC BY-NC-SA 4.0. Photo credits are as follows: Nick Fedele, CC BY-NC-SA 2.0; Terje Sørgjerd, CC BY-SA 3.0; John McColgan, Public Domain; Jerome Tapier, CC BY-NC-SA 2.0; Steve Collis, CC BY 2.0; Ju Blasina, CC BY-NC 2.0; Raimond Spekking, CC BY-SA 4.0; Karri Huhtanen, CC BY 2.0)
Loki Week Day 2 (Character Traits) - Fucking Up Like Only Loki
A dark and rhythmic playlist to celebrate Loki’s mixed up mess of contradictions… self-serving and compassionate; cruel and gentle; dumb and smart; serious and playful; terrible and beautiful.
Anathema - Lost Control (x) | Cobra Starship - Hot Mess | Arctic Monkeys - You’re so Dark | Marina & The Diamonds - Teen Idle | Nouvelle Vague - Master & Servant (x) | Katie Melua - I’d Love To Kill You | Jeffree Star - I’m In Love (With A Killer) | Sebastian Stroud - Counting Bodies Like Sheep to the Rhythm of the War Drums (x) | Lana Del Rey - Gods and Monsters | Depeche Mode - Blasphemous Rumours | Simon Curtis - Super Psycho Love | Disciple - I Feel You | Fever Ray - If I Had A Heart (x) | Wizard - End of All | + Bonus Track (idea credits in parentheses)
shine bright like an overly detailed anime eyeball drawn by a seventh grader on their math homework
I remember that I used to be one of the happiest kids, all I’d do was smile and laugh. I also remember the words that ruined all of that.
If there are any parents reading this, please don’t ruin your children’s happiness by saying stuff like this. Talk to them.
9 years old is too young to lose your happiness, and self harming at 11 (or at all) shouldn’t happen.
If I had the support of my parents growing up instead trying to figure it out all on my own I’m sure I’d still be that big grinned kid I used to be.
*this makes me sad*